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Why do African parents over protect their female child

Growing up as a female child in an African home is not easy, the over protectiveness shown to we girl is something worth talking about. African parents believe that caging the female child makes her a responsible person, but that is not a determination to how a person would turn out.

Let me tell you a little story, my best friend is the only girl among four boys, her parents are elders In their church. Growing up I was the only friend she had, she was always at home not being allowed to go out, and I was the only friend her parents allowed to visit her(that's because my parents were elders in the same church with them). The would always give her the excuse that she would get spoil out there. her brothers were so protective of her in school that no guy could come near her. To cut the long story short today my friend is no more, she died in her first year in the university after going clubbing with some friends.

I personally am someone that believe everyone should be allowed to have a life. Everyone deserves to go out and see the world, make mistakes and learn from them
you see pastors protecting their female child not allowing them to mingle which is wrong. Train up your child in the right way and trust her to make the right decisions, where she is missing it advice her but don't scare her, cause this pushes her away to the wrong hands. Mothers get close to your daughter's don't restrain her remenber you would not always be there with her.

There is no perfect person out there, what would be would be restraining is not the solution. I lost my friend because she was not taught how to face the would, but instead to avoid it. I think it's high time we stop this madness in Africa especially here in Nigeria.

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