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If you are a lover of romance movies, you would agree with me that getting married is something that appears so beautiful, every girl out there would give anything to have a feeling like that. I love wedding ceremonies a lot, but not just for the food, I love the part where the bride walks in and all attention is on her. In my many years of following this tradition, I have realize that much emphasis seems to be made on the wedding ceremony, but not on the marriage itself.

As a Nigerian, you would agree with me that the way Nigerian ladies, carry this marriage thing is something else. Pre wedding this, pre wedding that. The major concerned seem to be on the wedding ceremony, having a perfect celebration, pleasing the guest, outing up a perfect picture for the world to see. I am not against anyone having a beautiful wedding, your dream day, but in the mist of all the celebration, you should not forget that there is still so much work to be done.

Our present generation is filled with lazy people, everyone expect something without giving anything. Two people cannot live as one unless they agree, it takes two to tangle. Dating is a different game from marriage, the rules of dating don't apply in marriage. It is the dream of every girl out there to get married, in an average Nigerian girl can even kill, just to follow the trend of newlyweds. but what's next after the wedding? This is a question we need to ask ourselves.

The rate of failed marriages is on the increase everyday. I have asked myself severally what went wrong.? How can two people who seem so in love with each other, suddenly want to end all that. Where did it all go wrong, and whose fault is it?. A lot of things can cause a marriage to fail, a single party can not be blamed entirely for the failure. People should understand that marriage is not a bed of rose, and there is no perfect marriage out there.  it takes a lot of tolerance to make it in marriage.

I strongly advice against rushed marriage. Don't get married because others are getting, get married because you have found the right one for you. Take your time, and be sure you are ready for this step before taking it. Parents should try and educate the children, on the trials of marriage, and how to overcome them. Most importantly don't forget to pray to your God for the right person.



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